“Honor your father and mother” is the first commandment that has a promise attached to it, namely, “so you will live well and have a long life.”
Ephesians 6:2-3 (MSG) Copyright © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene H. Peterson
One of the right choices we can make to a brighter future is to honor our parents. Honoring parents as adults doesn’t mean obey or worship; it doesn’t mean to pretend that everything they did was perfect or let them overrun your spouse with “the way we do things in this family”. It means to be grateful that they gave you life and treat them with dignity and respect because they are made in God’s image (even if they didn’t represent His Love to you very well…or at all). On a practical level, this involves praying for them, encouraging them, speaking well of them to others, making sure their physical needs are taken care of, staying in healthy contact with them within appropriate boundaries (i.e. don’t let them interfere with your marriage or undermine your parenting, but explain limits respectfully and gently), and giving their advice “weight” (showing interest and receiving with a teachable spirit) even if you decide not to take it.
The bright future promised to us when we honor our parents is (1) longevity and (2) prosperity. I want both of those! Wrinkle creams and cryogenics have nothing on honoring your parents! The best investment strategy you and I can have is to treat our parents like gold; not because everything they did was right, but because we are glad to be alive!
There’s one aspect that your parents have given you that you may not have considered. It may be worth more to you than what you think your parents actually gave you in their lifetime. It’s Roots. Your parents have connected you, without their realizing it perhaps, to a wealth of family heritage and blessing. There’s enough in your history to help you realize the difficulties each generation faced and the problems that emerged as well as the courageous men and women you are related to and can choose to be like; your family history can help you to forgive your parents for how they turned out (if they weren’t loving) and to be grateful to be born to them because of the blessing that has come from their histories, through them, to you. You and I get to redeem our family history and take our family line in a new direction that will hopefully get brighter and brighter as each generation passes. Let’s be the “turnaround” generation!
I am on a quest to find the treasure in my family history and redeem it by bringing it into the present and allowing it to inform the present. For that I need much more than information, but perspective. I hope my journey will inspire you to look a little deeper beyond your “parental units” to see who you really are and where you really come from.
Family ties: Click the link to see all the surnames I am related to you (yours might be one of them!) I hope to update each surname with a link to a page with a general history and noteworthy stories.
Missing Persons: I’m currently looking for information on these specific ancestors who, as far as records are concerned, seem rather enigmatic. Click on the link to see who they are!
What about you? What do you do to honor your parents today? What do you plan to do to honor them? How has discovering your family history helped you to make peace with the present?
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